I watched my daughter
standing in line for cotton candy
at a school fundraising fair.
She was so kind,
she gave her place in line
to all the little children who came up behind her.
It quickly became clear
that she would NEVER get some, too;
and it would not have hurt a soul
if she’d just kept her place in line.
© 2013 DarEll S. Hoskisson (dsh)
This visual is a reminder to me. I love to be too nice, often getting distracted “helping” to the point of NEVER getting to the things I want or need to do. Once again, I have to remember what I also want and keep my place in line! and I can face my greatest fear seeing clearly that it really will not hurt anyone for me to do that. I have to realize the cost of not living my own life is too great and is worth the cost of others waiting just a bit for their turn.
I can be “too nice” too, and often it ends up not being a good thing – not only for me, but for others as well. It is good to have a kind heart and watch for those opportunities to help, but we also must be wise. Something someone told me once, was “what about if everyone was doing it?” That helps me see if what seems like a good thing is, or isn’t. If everyone was doing what she was doing, no one would ever get any cotton candy, everyone’s time would be wasted. The best thing, is to just each take our turn in line.